Verbal Fasting

So this particular topic in which I will call Verbal Fasting is also known as “Not speaking negative.”  I realize this is not so much a running/fitness topic but today it will be.

Negative talk is like a virus. It creeps it’s way into your life and has a way of whispering in your ear all the ugly, selfish, negative, self hating talk that it can:

*You’re not good enough.

*You’ll never be skinny.

*Only  skinny people run.

*You’re too slow to run a marathon.

*You’ll never succeed.

*Other people do it better than you.

*You’ll fail just like everyone expects you too.

The list can go on and on but you get the point. I’m the world’s worst/best at negative talk. At some point in my life I allowed it to make its way into my life and it infected/affected me. Let me help you from making the same mistakes. It’s something I have to work on all the time or otherwise it tries to root itself back in to my life.

I came up with Verbal Fasting. Before speaking it, accepting it or reacting to the negativity, I stop, I pray about it and I move forward. What does this mean for you? Stop, think about it (pray about it) and  decide, is it good, pure, true? Then, move forward. I refuse to accept the nagging little voice that tries to gum up my thoughts. Whether it be frustration, anxiety, anxiousness or just negative self talk, I step back and decide what I’m feeling and hearing is it really true (which normally it’s not), take control of it and then deny it. Squash the negative feeling or thought.

I call it verbal fasting because to me it’s like fasting for religious purposes. When someone fast, they do not go out and announce the fasting. Instead, they go into their quiet place to pray and meditate silently. Verbal fasting has the same concept. When a situation arises, instead of reacting or acting on the negative, stop, go into your quiet place and pray and meditate on it. Is it true? Is it right? Is it pure? Is it lovely? If not, then deny and refuse it.

It’s not easy and it’s hard to take hold of those negative thoughts and feelings but the outcome is a brighter, happier, and lovelier person; a stronger person physically and mentally; someone who knows they are good and worthy.

Now I do this by having quiet time in the morning to review what’s good and pure. I recommend positive messages (Rick Warren) or  positive music such as KLove to play in the background while you work of a day.  I work very hard to keep the negative at bay. It affects me. It rubs off on me and before you know it, I’m cranky and I have the “Meh” attitude. I don’t see the positive in a situation. I  have a negative cloud hanging around me. Now I’m not saying you won’t have bad days. We all have a bad day from time to time, but a string of bad days is not good. Constantly feeling the need to put people in their place is not good. It’s not good for your soul or mind. Constantly thinking “I’ll never lose weight” leaves an anchor tied to your mindset. Deny it. Squash it. Declare that you will do better and be better. Instead of getting angry at someone, give them grace. Instead of escalating a situation can you defuse it by just giving a person grace? If you do will the situation end and everyone move on to a better outcome?  I only bring this up because all of this affects the negative and positives in your life and in others lives as well.

So the next time the little voice whispers “You’ll never reach your goals” or  “You’re not good enough”……deny it. Shout back, “I will and I am. I will reach my goals!! I am most certainly good enough!! I declare it and believe it!!”

Fitness and running is such a mental place. If we’re in a mental rut or bad spot then our health and fitness suffers. If we protect our minds and heart  then it’s very possible that our health and fitness can soar to places you’ve never been before.

How do you protect and renew your mind?

-Cheers

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things. – Philippians 4:8

 

64 comments
4fitmommas
4fitmommas

awesome post!!!  I am a firm believer that there is POWER in words...life and death are in the power of the tongue...for that reason...I speak LIFE into everything!!!  I am my biggest critic and some may look at that as being negative but I don't...I consider it tough love.  :-)

Carollsng27
Carollsng27

Loved this! I actually just adopted similar concepts before the start of my current fitness challenge! I was always quitting from talking myself down when I would miss a day or routine. It was seriously consuming me! So I accepted beforehand the good and bad days would both come and that it would be okay because I would pull through with strength and keep moving forward! It's been so life changing and I feel so much lighter not weighing myself down with negative thoughts! Love your concept of Verbal fasting. I like to listen to KUSC (the 24 hour NON COMMERCIAL classical music station) It helps keep my mind clear and calm. Rooting you on towards your fitness goals! Thanks for sharing this! 

amorapra
amorapra

Hi! How are you? Found the link via the blog hop.

I love the thought of doing a 'verbal fasting'. Sometimes, I have this... Moment? Where in my head is clouding up with negative thoughts and sometimes it affects my performance. I really need to practice this. Thank you so much for sharing! <3


Polly @ Pollydefiesgravity.wordpress.com

FortyByFortyFit1
FortyByFortyFit1

You totally nailled this! Negativity can only wear us down. I love Proverbs 4:23, "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." When our hearts are focused on the positive, it spills over into our lives & our relationships. 

run_chocolate
run_chocolate

A thousand times YES!  I love everything you wrote!  It is so easy to be hard on ourselves and negative about things (especially body image for me and I know many others).  I just got a little book that I used to read all the time called God's Creative Power.  I aim to read it daily. It is short but full of awesome promises from God about who we REALLY are!
I love the idea of a verbal fast, and I would say for myself a mental fast too!  Such a great reminder in scripture of only thinking on the good things :)
-Esther-

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@run_chocolate I'll have to check out God's Creative Power!  Thank you!! And I look forward to keeping up with you as well ~ Cheers!


Reinventitude
Reinventitude

We must be on the same wavelength this week!  I just posted a very similar attitude check post this week, too and love getting these postivity reminders from my fellow friends and bloggers! It helps when we have positive role models, like you, who reach out to us and lift us up with encouragement. Thank you!

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@Reinventitude I'll have to get over there and check it out!! I love a good read and I love anything that inspires people to do better and be better. Thanks for stopping by! 

Acbrandt
Acbrandt

Yes. This. We say things to ourselves we wouldn't dream of saying to other people. And we should be kindest to ourselves! I absolutely love this concept. --Allyson from Girlseekinghealthy.wordpress.com.

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@Acbrandt It's never cool to be a mean girl and it's really uncool to be a mean girl to ourselves. I always say, if you wouldn't say it to someone else then don't say it to yourself!!!

triandtrue
triandtrue

Omg thank you for this. It is amazing. I had this issue on Tuesday when my coach texted and told me how strong I was and how great I was doing. I didn't see it and I didn't say nice things to myself. I need to try your suggestions next time!

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@triandtrue I love coaches, a good one always inspires!! Always speak nice words to yourself, you deserve it!! 

uptite_mamas
uptite_mamas

Hi there! Visiting from the blog hop!!  Ok! I can get behind this concept! I will probably use it a lot more than I should be because I sometimes have a fresh mouth, but I certainly need to be more aware of that!  I try to be a positive thinker, but only when I super conscious that I am being negative. It's important to be more aware at all time!!

Holistic Fit Fam
Holistic Fit Fam

What an awesome concept!  Sometimes we are our own worst critics!  Thanks for putting things into perspective!

MandieMutchie
MandieMutchie

I love this - great concept! I listened to a Lewis Howes podcast today, and he said "You have two people in your head - the negative person, and the cheerleader. You get to choose who to let win!" I definitely plan on inviting the cheerleader to more parties, and love your idea! Thank you for sharing! 

MandieMutchie
MandieMutchie

P.S. I am here from the blog hop, and you can see my blog at www.lipglosslungesandlunches.com! 

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@MandieMutchie what a great way to put it Mr. Howes!!  Thank you for sharing. I need to check him out! And thank you for stopping by! 

KelliBakerFreese
KelliBakerFreese

So wonderful! That's one of my favorite verses, I love verbal fasting as a way to git rid of the negative! 

pascal_brugman
pascal_brugman

Its a well knowing Problem when i get in Bad Situations in my life.T

hats why i started bloggin.


When i need to empty my mind i go for a run or take my bike


WendyLeepHammond
WendyLeepHammond

I, too have struggled with the negative voices. As I've gotten older I've learned to ignore them or challenge them. Marathon training has really helped me see how much of my limitations are in my head. I love your tips!

Wholisticwoman.com

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@amodernshorelife oh the negative chatter has got to go!! Just think " Nope, I'm not accepting it "and start listing 5 positive things. I try to make it a habit to not list the same positive things that way I can see the bigger picture

Ellyn @ In Fitness and In Health
Ellyn @ In Fitness and In Health

Wow what an inspiring and empowering post!  I love this!  I'm stopping by from the blog hop - so nice to meet you!  What a great term - verbal fasting.  I agree with you that our fitness and certainly our health can suffer if we are in a bad mental state.  I do, however, think that negative energies like anger and frustration can sometimes fuel a better workout, and you also feel better about yourself afterwards.

All the points you make are so true, though.  The negative voice we have in our heads can really bring us down into some deep dark places.  We NEED reminders like this to get ourselves up and treat ourselves with respect.  Thank you for sharing this beautiful post! 

RunWithNoRegrets
RunWithNoRegrets

This is something that I need to do.  I find that I am always worrying about what other people are saying or thinking about me.  I hate going negative, and I need to practice verbal fasting so that I can let go of these petty things.  Thank you!

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@RunWithNoRegrets Your too good of an athlete to let the negative chatter get you down. Let it go and everything just gets better!  Thanks for stopping by! 

Runwybridlplanr
Runwybridlplanr

I do love your term "verbal fasting" we can sometimes be our own worst enemy.  It's beyond easy to look at all our short failings and criticize ourselves because we find others who can do things better, or we compare ourselves to the "society" we see on T.V and in the media.  When the truth is, just as we can be our worst enemy we can also be our best friend and motivator.  Verbal fasting is something that no matter where you are at in life, it is something we all need.  Beautiful post, I love the message behind it today!

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@Runwybridlplanr Thank you so much for thoughts and kind words!  Its always hard putting these kind of thoughts out there, it can be very intimidating not know what kind of response will be given.  Also, thank you for stopping by!  

rylotru
rylotru

What a great post! I am fully supportive of verbal fasting and taking a new approach on positivity. I can't wait to read more of your blogs! 

CassiS
CassiS

That's an interesting take on taking the power of positivity to another level.

satorke
satorke

What a great idea! I'm also guilty at times of being a mean girl to myself but it helps to take a step back and ask if these are things I would accept someone telling to a family member or friend. It usually helps me see that I need to cut myself a little slack :)

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@satorke You do need to cut yourself some slack!! you deserve kind words and sweet thoughts.  You can't be positive while being negative!!

Jenn at Run with Sole
Jenn at Run with Sole

I love the thought of verbal fasting. We are definitely our own worst critics. We take in every negative comment that's ever been said to us and internalize it, only for it to resurface at our most vulnerable times. But your idea of stopping and mentally pushing it away is great! 


Looking forward to seeing more of your posts through the blog hop! 

melissajillane
melissajillane

Great post!  This topic is something everyone can benefit from.  I have worked very hard over time to stop the negative talk because it is good for anyone!  Great post!

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@melissajillane Hey! thanks for stopping by and I look forward to keeping up with you as well. stop by any time. ~ Cheers!!

rachelmcmichael
rachelmcmichael

Wow! We could all use some verbal fasting. Such a great lesson and such a great verse. This is some great food for thought as we go through the week!

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@rachelmcmichael Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the positive thoughts. Hope you have a great week and weekend! ~Cheers

HoHo Runs
HoHo Runs

Hi!  I'm visiting from the hop.  This is such a good lesson!  Negativity just seems to breed uncontrollably if you allow it to.  And you are right, not every day is a great day.  But it is always in our control to turn that around.  I really like the phrase you coined...Verbal Fasting.  I'm going to remember that! 

pounds2miles
pounds2miles

@HoHo Runs Thanks for stopping by and thanks for the sweet words! And please, feel free to use the phrase “Verbal Fasting” if it helps keep the negative chatter at bay!! ~Cheers!